Student Blog: Rude vs Polite in Today’s Society

This week Manchester Academy of English’s Advanced English class practise how to formulate opinions in English, expressing positive and negative view points and evaluating pros and cons around the theme of ‘rudeness’. Here are their thoughts:

Student 1

Rude behaviour is on the rise in today’s society. The average person will encounter rudeness on a daily basis, both physically and verbally. This is coming from all types of people; it is not age or gender specific. Rudeness is a bad trait in a character, and oftentimes people close to you learn to imitate your traits. And we don’t want to encourage this type of behaviour, do we? What would the world be if the majority were impolite and lacking self-control when it comes to cooperate with the outside world. Nonetheless, who teaches these qualities to begin with? Should parents be held liable for this kind of behaviour? Or do you learn to be uncouth from friends and acquaintances?

I believe that it’s time to pull together and do something about the rude behaviour of certain people. People don’t seem to be familiar with common sense these days. Perhaps it’s about their inability to acknowledge emotions and what impact their impulsive behaviour have on others. Instead of letting them ruin the easily offended peoples’ day, we can take a stand and help with their short temper. They need to be taught to be on their best behaviour in public at all times. What measures need to be taken? Are we meant to instil ethics and good manners in them?

Student 2

Should everybody have the same rights and have the same importance as the rest of us?

Being in the 21st century, sometimes I do not understand how there are still people who are not bothered about rudeness and disrespectful behaviour.

In my opinion, everybody should have freedom of speech, but you should always show respect. When you have your own rules or you are used to doing things in a particular way you should adapt them to the new place you are going. For example, if you go to a different country where they have other customs, you should try to get used them, adapt to them and show you appreciate and respect the culture.

If we were all the same, life would be so boring. So our differences make us unique.

Student 3

My impression of British People

To begin with, I would like to emphasize that I am not trying to stereotype anyone. I will just talk about my general impression of Mancunians in comparison to people in my hometown.

Well now, in general I would say people here are honest. If they are in a good mood, they will treat you nicely, calling you “love”, “darling” or “honey”. And it comes across very natural. On the other hand, they also let you know, when you shouldn’t talk to them and conversely they leave you in peace if you don’t show any interest in talking to them. But what is about the rude behaviour?

Oh, they have it. They are able to talk nothing but rudely. I would never dare to state that I know just one-tenth of their expressions for cursing. But I don’t want to blame them. On the contrary: I hardly can wait until I will understand enough to get the meanings.
I don’t think there should be a change in British people’s behaviour. As long as you think about the consequences when you insult someone you like. That should always be considered. 

Student 4

Look, I don’t expect people to act like Snow White. I don’t expect them to sing songs about medieval chivalry. I do, however, expect them to grasp the reality of what is deemed appropriate and inappropriate in a twenty first century modern society.

I had the misfortune to witness some uncivilised acts with my own eyes quite recently. I was walking back home one day and I saw a man spitting on the ground. A tingling sense inside of me thought, ‘Are you for real?’ It took some effort to restrain myself from blurting that thought aloud. It is not as if he was working in a farm for six hours.

On the opposite side of the spectrum, there are people who are too polite. They think every issue could be resolved with a dazzling smile and good manners. They always say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’, and apologise for doing absolutely nothing! To add insult to injury, it is a habit parents are trying to inculcate on their children. “Mummy, I’m sorry I was 8.67 seconds late for dinner. Mummy, I’m sorry I got a 99% on my math quiz instead of 100. Mummy, I’m sorry I didn’t wright to you a love letter telling you how much I love you. SHUT UP! They turned children into robots instead of human beings.

Then, there are those who use courtesy to appeal to others. You see him put on a jubilant smile and say, ’ladies first’ whenever he goes on a date. He pretends to listen to his partner’s rants even though the poor guy is thinking about the football match and cursing himself fort being stupid enough to miss it. He is utterly oblivious to the fact that he could have gone without hurting anybody’s feelings.

It is vital we make the distinction between what is polite and what is too polite. Actually, let me rephrase that. It is important to make the distinction between what is polite and what is stupid. I think people should be tolerant to one another and regard each other with respect and dignity. Let us work together to build a world where the banner of politeness and refinement of manner is raised. I am in favour of good manners. I am in favour of thanking people for doing something good and apologising when doing something wrong. What I vehemently disagree with is saying them too much at points that don’t call for them.  And for the chivalrous young lads today, you need to wake up and remember we are living in the twenty first century.


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